Kids at Your Wedding

In the years that I have performed at weddings, anniversaries and birthdays, I have come to realize that an important factor in determining the success of an event is often overlooked - or, at least, not given the attention that it deserves: the age of the guests.  Should there be an age minimum at your wedding?

This is an important decision when planning your celebration, so take a moment to consider the implications carefully.

If you want unbridled, reckless abandon from your wild, sweaty guests on the dance floor … perhaps, it’s not the right event for children to attend.

There are great kids out there, and there are some great parents that get along really well with them; however, the odds that all of the families you invite to your celebration will have that kind of bond are … probably not too good.

There is a time and place for a family-oriented celebration. Usually, this is outdoors with lots of different things going on at once: like swimming, horse-shoes, badminton, volleyball, face-painting, etc.  If this is the case, then bring the kids, and everyone can have a blast together.

At the vast majority of weddings, however, the kids tend to run around the room trying to unload some of their large reservoirs of energy.  Also (and you need to know this), they are likely to beg your DJ - relentlessly - to play the terrible music, with the horrific lyrics and demonic content - from the very beginning of your cocktail hour, all the way through dinner - thus derailing your seasoned professional and taking him / her out of “the zone.”  That zone is defined as being completely focused on the bride and groom, and trying to pick up the vibe in the room, so as to pack the dance floor.

From the DJ’s perspective, when we arrive at a wedding … and we see children beginning to arrive as well … we won’t run and hide until the wedding is over, but we do know that your wedding day may not be all that you had imagined.

We already know there will not be a jam-packed dance floor.  There will be no frenzied wild time - with a sea of bodies moving up and down as one - everyone screaming at the top of their lungs; and we know that some families are likely to end up in so much conflict that the entire family will leave early.

To synopsize: if you want to provide your guests with a packed and wild dance floor, it may be best to leave the children with responsible babysitters - so that you and your guests are completely free to act like a bunch of crazy, wild, fun loving kids.

Curtis Knight
Curtis Knight Entertainment
http://www.curtisknight.com

Must Play Lists

Curtis Knight Entertainment: Q&A

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Question:
I’ve heard that I should make a list of all the songs I want the DJ to play. Is that true?

Curtis Knight:
Yes and no. More No than Yes.

Nobody, and I mean Nobody, can predict what will make a crowd dance before the party happens. The best DJs on the planet will all tell you the same thing: You have to read the crowd and you have to “feel the vibe” or feel the electricity and figure out which way the mood is going as it changes all night.

The crowd may like a few disco songs…and really like them, then enough is enough and they are ready for something new. If the DJ does not “feel” this change in mood, then the crowd sits down and the dancing is over - possibly for the rest of the event.

Young DJ’s ask the seasoned pros if they have a secret “hit list” that they use at every event. The answer is always the same. The seasoned DJ will be friendly and explain that you never know what you are going to play until you size-up the crowd and feel their mood.

Many Brides and Grooms believe that they are supposed to pick the music for their reception. Most DJ companies will simply oblige and dutifully play what they have been told to play… but this usually means that there will be very little packed-dance-floor happening.

We coined a phrase years ago, and when it is appropriate I will use it in a meeting with a bride and groom: “If you pick your music in advance your friends and family will not dance.” It’s almost always true.

You might be able to hit the nail on the head and provide the perfect set list that will pack your floor all night. But the odds are against you. In most cases, it is best to give your DJ a list of songs that you would love to hear and tell him / her that you would love to hear them IF the DJ thinks they will work…and maybe add a small list of ones that you just gotta hear.

That’s fine ; )

Curtis Knight
Curtis Knight Entertainment
http://www.curtisknight.com

Should I book my DJ for extra time?

Curtis Knight Entertainment: Q&A

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Question:
Should I book my DJ for extra time - just in case?

Curtis Knight:

We think not. Shorter is almost always better than longer when it comes to the length of an event.

Our overtime ( $50 / half-hour per DJ - $100 / hour per DJ ) costs the same in advance as it does on the day of your event. So we recommend that you commit to an appropriate amount of time, and then add overtime in increments of a half-hour.

If you want the celebration to continue, we are happy to stay as long as you like (and we have often done events where they continue celebrating for as much as 4 hours of overtime).

Curtis Knight
Curtis Knight Entertainment
http://www.curtisknight.com

Advice about working with DJs?

Curtis Knight Entertainment: Q&A

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Question:
Do you have any advice about working with DJs?

Curtis Knight:
The first time you meet your DJ you should feel a positive reaction, and find the DJ … likable.

The DJ should give you a sense of confidence that s/he is the right choice. If your first impulse is a negative one, be wary, and ask to meet another DJ if you can. If you have already hired a DJ, he or she should be a consummate pro, we hope.

Once the pleasantries are over, ask the DJ if s/he has a basic bullet-list of the event - a thumbnail sketch. This is where you may catch something that you like or dislike, and it is a great time to address it and change the direction to one that suits you better.

Sometimes just a basic run-through will add so much order and so much clarity to the event, that it is the difference between success and failure.

Most DJs are natural crowd pleasers. They want to make you happy. If you tell them exactly what you thinking about, then ask their opinion, they will tell you. This exchange of ideas is crucial. You and the DJ are a team of two, that has one mission: Please the group that will attend your event! If the flow of two sets of ideas is embraced, it is likely to produce an enjoyable event.

Curtis Knight
Curtis Knight Entertainment
http://www.curtisknight.com

Wedding Music Choices

How do you know you have made the right music choices? A story with a moral:

A couple had me as their DJ / Emcee recently. The wedding was beautiful, and the bride actually called days later to say what a wonderful job I had done. In planning her wedding music, she chose a song for the entrance of the bride and groom that was upbeat, exciting and catchy. Then, on the day of the wedding, she called my office early in the morning and asked if she could change that song to a different song she was excited about. She did NOT ask my opinion. She simply asked me to make the change.

I knew she was making a mistake, but I was caught in an ethical dilemma. Because I have emceed celebrations for many years, I have come to know what makes a great entrance and what makes for a ho hum snooze. If I told her she was making a mistake, her enthusiasm - on her wedding day! - would have been doused with cold water… thanks to me. If I did not tell her she was making a mistake, I would allow her - I would “enable” her - to have a hand in lowering the tone of the excitement for her grand entrance. I made the change, and the grand entrance was significantly compromised.

It was still a great wedding; however…the grand entrance is where you set the tone for your entire celebration. If you want fun and excitement on your wedding day, the grand entrance is where you lay the foundation for it and create the mood.

Here is the moral, and the point of the story:

If you have a good DJ, who is a true professional, ask him / her if there is anything you could change to make things better or more exciting. I am not advocating making the wedding all about the DJ, or turning it into a “cookie cutter” wedding (just like all the rest of the weddings). You can be creative and have a unique wedding. I am simply saying to bounce your ideas off someone who has a cultured opinion; ask the opinion of your professional.

Many people do not fully appreciate the art and skill of a great DJ. Your DJ has the power to make or break your wedding day success as much as, or more than, any other component of your celebration.

If you have a question, call or email me anytime.

Curtis Knight
Curtis Knight Entertainment
http://www.curtisknight.com

Wedding Day Details: The Timing Snafu

The timing on your wedding day can play a crucial role in your wedding day success and happiness.

Because my company has 44 DJs, and because we do as many as 25 weddings per weekend, we sometimes have the ability to notice trends and behaviors that might otherwise go unnoticed.

This short story describes a syndrome that happens fairly often - The Timing Snafu.

This past Saturday, Anna and I were the DJs for Richie and Melanie at Castleton in Windham, NH. On Friday evening, Anna spoke with Melanie at length. They went over all the details, including the timing and flow. Anna confirmed that we would have music on at 10:00 am, and Melanie would approach for her vows at 10:30 am - outdoors, at the gazebo on the right.

We arrived at Castleton at 8:30 am to ensure time to set up the ceremony system at the Gazebo – outdoors, and the reception system in the ballroom - indoors.

Our policy is to inquire with staff to be sure we are all on the same page.

The owner’s son instructed us to set up at the ceremony area over to the left. We were just finishing the set up, when he jogged over to us and apologized. He told us we had to move to the other Gazebo - over on the left. It is frustrating…but these things happen. We told him it was not a problem at all, and began to quickly move everything to the other location. We still had enough “squish” in our timing to be on time and dressed appropriately before guests arrived.

Just then, the coordinator, Heather, who is a perfect 10 as wedding coordinators go, walked up and wanted to confirm that music was to be on at 9:30 am, with ceremony vows at 10:00 am. Remember, we were planning to have music on at 10:00 am and vows at 10:30 am. Anna and I, wearing our polo style “CURTIS KNIGHT ENTERTAINMENT” wedding set-up shirts and black slacks, both drenched in sweat, looked at each other as instant panic set in. Now, we could not possibly be ready…

Anna and I agreed that she would run for the van and change into her gown while I finished setting up both systems and started the music. She would, then, replace me, and I would go change into my tux.

As she returned a few minutes later, the bridal party was lined up and ready to go. Anna had no choice but to begin the ceremony - without me there to spot for her (e.g. give her signals as to when each member of the wedding party would launch). There was no direct line of sight. I was franticly trying to change into my tux as fast as I could, in our van.

By the time I jogged back, the ceremony was well underway. All parties were in place with clergy performing the ceremony.

There had been a snafu, though: Anna did not have a direct line of sight to the wedding party, and because I was not there to spot for her, she had delayed the bride’s entrance by about a minute while she tried to understand the hand signals of Heather, our wonderful coordinator. Because Anna and Heather do not know each other well, and because there was a considerable distance between them, Anna mistook Heather’s signal to mean that she wanted the music for the bride’s entrance delayed. After a minute, Anna figured it out and played the processional.

Melanie made her approach, and all was well. She did not seem to notice, or care about, the slight delay. To Anna and me, it was monumentally devastating and we were crushed. We always want things to go perfectly: No exceptions. I don’t think Melanie ever knew that we were crazy lunatics trying to overcome the loss of a half hour and misdirection.

The point of this story is this: Check and double check your timing and details. They are of excruciating importance and can be the difference between success and failure.

Curtis Knight
Curtis Knight Entertainment
http://www.curtisknight.com